(anger, worry, fear, resentment, guilt) cause us to go in an endless cycle of Feeling uncomfortable --> Eating unhealthy food --> Feeling uncomfortable --> Eating unhealthy food
...and so on.
Diane came to me for weight loss. Her daughter's wedding was quickly approaching and she was consumed with worry because she didn't want to be the "fat mother of the bride."
Diane shared that her job was incredibly stressful and she'd sit at her desk and eat candy while sipping on Diet Coke's throughout the day. As a result, she developed what she jokingly referred to as "secretary spread."
She went on to say..."As a kid I learned to eat for comfort... and as a reward. If I skinned my knee, mom would say, "Here honey, have a cookie. It will make you feel better." And it did...
If I got a good grade, dad would say, "Let's get ice cream and celebrate!" Those were some of my best memories with dad. He always seemed stressed out because of his work. Yet, he was so relaxed during our trips to the ice cream parlor that I thought it was the ice cream. Now I realize it was our quality time together...
BUT...it still doesn't stop me from plopping down in front of the TV at night with a half gallon of my favorite ice cream and a spoon!
Now I'm even more stressed because I have to squeeze into a Size 8 Mother-of-the-Bride dress and that's not going to happen unless I get rid of 29 pounds fast! I thought that would be enough to keep me motivated to stop snacking and eating so much sugar, but the worry is making it worse!
Yesterday a sales guy came by with a big box of donuts and put it right on my desk. I was so upset worrying about fitting in that dress, I looked around to see if anyone was watching and then scarfed down three donuts. Three of them! I'm totally out of control!"
Diane was in tears while she told this story. Her problem wasn't just that she didn't have enough willpower to avoid the donuts. It was her stress and worry! Like so many others...Diane was trying to solve the wrong problem!
She was trying to figure out how to stop eating sugar so she could lose weight. But the sugar cravings and over-eating were symptoms of being emotionally overwhelmed. What Diane really needed was to get her stress under control...and that's exactly what we did!
Through a series of deeply relaxing "mind-training" sessions, Diane was able to completely let go of her stress and worry. Because she felt more calm and peaceful inside, her intense cravings for sugar disappeared. This happened for two reasons.
The first reason is emotional. Through my program, her "emotional batteries" were recharged and we traded in her worrisome thoughts for more empowering beliefs!
Diane could be very hard on herself, even though she was well liked by others. Once we released the critical judgments she was making about herself, Diane felt much happier and more at ease inside.
The second reason was physical. Stress releases high amounts of cortisol (a stress hormone) into the bloodstream which intensify's cravings for sugar and carbs. Stress also turns off leptin, which is a different hormone that influences portion control.
When Diane's stress went down, so did the cortisol, which in turn increased the amount of leptin in her body. As a result, physiologically it became easier to resist temptation and eat less.
As Diane used all 16 modules in my Body & Mind Transformation program, her sleep, mood and self-control continued to increase.
Four months later, Diane was able to slip into her "size 8" dress and felt beautiful during her daughter's wedding. She said, "I was the second most beautiful woman there" with a smile on her face.
That let me know her newfound confidence was here to stay!